Henry Ford said ‘whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you’re right’. If you constantly tell yourself that you are useless, then guess what…
Our thoughts are powerful and can have a huge impact on how we feel, our expectations and aspirations.
Self-talk is the conversations that we have with ourselves, aloud or silently. We all do it. Sometimes hundreds of times a day and it can be positive or negative.
Self-talk is just like breathing. It’s always there and it always happens. It’s almost like a running commentary of your life conducted by you.
The problem is our self-talk can be our biggest enemy. That inner voice that tells you, you are not good enough, you couldn’t possibly do that, nobody likes you, you’re useless etc.
We all have Automatic Negative Thoughts or ANTS. However, unless we learn how to control our ANTS, they will prevent us from reaching our true potential. Our mind has the ability to talk itself into failure. Especially when we try something new, challenging or demanding.
We can improve our self-talk by:
- Listening critically to your inner voice and understanding that it is not always correct. Our negative self-talk can be influenced by our history (including childhood memories and relationships). It may not be a true reflection of you now. So question strongly what you say to yourself.
- Surround yourself with positive people as their positivity will rub off on you. They will also give you constructive and helpful feedback.
- Practice positive self-talk. Use positive affirmations and focus on what is good about you and your life
Positive self-talk prevents us from sabotaging any potential progress, happiness and success that we deserve. Positive self-talk means taking responsibility for what you say to yourself.
Remember. Just telling yourself you will succeed is not enough. You have to truly believe it.
Stay focused and stay blessed.