“Do you think black women have emotional wounds, due to our father’s lack of presence in our homes?” Lela asked The Six, who were waking up to breakfast at her table, and slowly recovering from a hectic bank holiday weekend jamming at the annual West Indian Carnival.
“Maybe the mans have father issues too”, Ben suggested as he topped up his plate with toasted hardo bread.
“Why have you asked that question Lela? Steele inquired.
Sipping on her smoothie, Lela replied “I just feel that too many black women are playing the role of a father, and it’s not healthy for them or the children”.
Slicing into his avocado pear Knight stated, “Woman have been raising men for years, my baby-mudha Shanti is raising our son”.
“Hmmm and that’s why our nation-hood is broken”, Ben mocked.
“Are you saying it’s our fault B…Blame the black woman as always?” Sasha griped as she quenched her thirst with a glass of health shake.
“I’m not saying it’s anyone’s fault”. Ben corrected, “But real talk what does a woman know about being a man”.
“Dem tun out effeminate or mummy’s boys hence me not marrying Mr Roman Clarke”, Lela dwelled.
“That’s not fair I know plenty a man who were brought up by a single parent mother that are wonderful husbands and raise dem pickney good”, Nia remarked.
“Who”, The Six asked in synchronicity.
Unbuckling his belt from overeating as per usual, Steele grumbled, “This whole I don’t need a man and this independent strong black woman thing is pure nonsense oh”.
“I hear you Steele”, Sasha replied as she layered coconut spread on her Jamaican slice, “It’s to divide and conquer the nation-hood….No movement has ever saved us; it has only broke us”.
“It’s all about going back to basics”, Ben announced as he took a breath from his plate, before adding, “Basic instructions before leaving earth, aka the bible”.
“Please”, Lela tutted.
Knight now fully awake enthused, “B you going in deep, the man is supposed to be the head of the household”.
“Your right Knight”, Nia retorted as she skilfully devoured her fruit cup and chirped:
“A child loses its childhood when the father is absent. Normally the mother would unload her problems onto the father but when di pupa is absent, di pickney has to carry that burden. The son has to become the man of the house, and a gyal pickney has to hold down responsibility at an early age, and is more vulnerable to di dutty man dem as no farad is there to protect her”.
Passing unused cutlery across the dining table to Lela, Sasha added, “Slavery has messed up the dynamics of our households. Massa would kill the father if he tried to protect his family, but Massa didn’t kill the woman when she protected her children and so it continues”.
Between sips of Caribbean punch, Ben said, “Black women need to be treated as women again. You don’t see other nations being encouraged to be a strong independent woman do you?”
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